Have you thought about using the Internet to meet men?
Be creative and active, is what I’m saying, and don’t be in a rush. You do not want to be in a relationship just because you feel like a loser without one.
I confirmed that I wasn't going and told everyone I thought the entire idea was stupid, and that I didn't care.
The truth was that no one had asked me, and I didn't want to go alone.
Rather, you are holding yourself (and your suitors) to a high standard, and it seems that many of these boys are not seeing that they’ll get a good return on investment if they hang around while you discourage them. There are boys out there who want what you want, but perhaps you’re not noticing them, or hanging around them or encouraging them to approach you. They might also lack courage to approach you (especially if you are usually socially engaged with girlfriends).
Are you open to such men, or are you only making yourself available to more shallow-but-bold types?
There are women who were pretty shy in high school and during the first year or two of college, and it delayed the start of their dating lives somewhat, but they got worked through the worst of it by their early twenties.
Take some time to think this question through please: Sometimes we act in ways that are against what we really want to achieve simply because we lack the courage of our convictions, or the creativity to see solutions that haven’t been handed to us on a platter.
Are you passively waiting around for men to approach you or are you taking charge of your situation by actively searching out the type of boy who would be healthy for you to become involved with? At a bar or party where people are looking to “see and be seen” — or in some sort of setting (like a club, volunteer group, religious group, etc.) where you’re likely to meet someone who actually shares your interests?
When I was 12 years old, a new phenomenon swept over me and my sixth grade peers: relationships. I remember, in detail, the tearful conversation I had with my mother about the situation.“Catherine, you're going to meet someone. These people aren't in relationships, they're just being silly.”“But, what if no one ever likes me? ” I somehow managed to ask between tears.“Catherine, your person is out there, and he's going to be amazing. You still have junior high, high school, college to get through.
A week before, the idea of “liking” a boy would have been met with “ew,” but it was suddenly greeted with serious conversation and much well-intentioned meddling (aka an investigation of how safe it was to tell him you liked him). You're going to meet him.”“Think of this: There's someone out there right now who has no idea that they are going to find you someday.